People are so frustrating!!!!!

I really dislike it when people ASSUME things and hate it when they feel that their assumptions mean they know better than other people; resulting the person rubbing their assumptions and attitude in other people's faces. (Wow that was a really long wordy sentence... can you tell I am venting).

I know that reality is that we all assume things in our lives. Our minds tend to pull up the closest thing that it can recognize and link objects together. If I said I was thinking about a flying cow some may assume that it was the one that jumped over the moon or that the cow had wings (most likely they would assume I need to check on my meds). Well what if I was reliving the scene from Twister with the cow flying due to the tornado. Don't assume that we know what something is because of first comes to mind.

In fact, today at work another officer gave a great example. He talked about when he used give presentations and speeches to classes he would begin with an example. "You are a detective, you arrive at the scene to find Mary dead on the floor, John asleep on the couch, and water on the floor." He then instructs the people to ask him questions but they can only be answered yes or no. So I asked, did John kill Mary? Yes, he caused her death. Is John intoxicated? No. Is there a weapon arround the scene? No. Did Mary hit her head? No. Is Mary's cause of death natural? No. ect.......

We finally giving up he tells me that Mary is a goldfish and John is a cat. John jumped on the table which caused the fish bowl to fall on the ground and Mary to spill out. She died due to the air and John took a cat nap. Now, as did everyone before me, I ASSUMED that Mary and John were people. I was jumping to a conclusion before I even knew the facts. We tend to do that and label things. (I also assumed that John was a drunk because he was found asleep).

I now have people that assume that they know what certain book, movies, and so forth are. They are condeming them before they even know the facts. I guess the thing that really frustrates me is that they then take this ASSUMPTION and get in other people's faces about what they are watching or reading. I have no problem with people who have a different line of conscience and do not want to watch, read, listen, ect to certain things. However, do not jump me or my friends because of how you feel. Even things that I hear negative things about (such as one movie that I did not want to see but it was a kid's movie) I research various, not just one, websites and blurbs to figure it out. At least then later I can give solid reasons... not assumptions, on why I don't want my kids or myself to see the movie. Even then I am not going to throw a hissy fit if others own it or like it as well.

We were all created with free will. This is not to say that we can do whatever we want and never face consequences. Rather, this means that when things come to principle, not biblical law, we have our conscience to guide us. We each answer for our decisions. There are consequences (good and bad) for our actions, but it is not up to others to impose what they feel those consequences are or will be. It is one thing to tell people how you personnally feel or view things and quite another to tell them they are bad or ungodly for doing them. I guess I want to say that these people need to be careful about pointing fingers and realize that there may be a rafter in their eyes where they see a straw in others. Maybe my rafter is when other assume I get upset... ut oh.

Can't we all just try to support each other with love when things around us are so tough. Pray for each other not tear each other down. Just my rant and frustrations for the day (or a few weeks if you count other people making snide comments lately).

A thought

I was actually thinking about the title of my blog "Keeping up with life." I was going to change it but then really thought about it. Doesn't it seem like life sometimes passes us by. That we are trying to keep up and not fall behind. It is funny because it is not like we are not living but rather I think at times we go on cruise control due to over activity or stress.

I look at my kids and realize how much they are growing. It seems like yesterday I had a toddler baby girl who now resembles a teenager more than a child. My son is still short so I think of him as little but then at times the things he says or does make me realize how much he is growing too.

I have friends that are going through some terrible times right now. Some are going to be without jobs, others have taken real hits in the income areas in other ways, one who faces her mothers illness and all that it may entail. I hope that they realize that every minute of every day I do think and pray for them. I understand if they feel like life is needed to be spent on cruise control. However, I hope that with love and support that they also realize not to let some things pass them by, especially precious time.

To all of those right now who are struggling... I am so sorry. I also think that you are all very special and unique. I hope that I can help in some way... just let me know. But I think the biggest thing is that every night before we sleep try to think of something that made you smile, laugh, glow, or just feel good. That is holding on to life and the moments it brings.

That is it for my deep thoughts.... LOL.

Much Love

First Day!!

I was so nervous last night that I really did not sleep... tossing and turning... staring at the clock. Both my husband and I got up waaaayyyyy before the alarm was set to go off. I think this is partly because the snowfall and fear the of the roads. My hubby was super sweet and drove me to work in my car. Really he hates driving his car in this weather, but still he could have told me to drive his since he had to go further. There is something nice about being able to relax on your way to the first day of a new job.

This morning I kept having thoughts like, "what if I don't belong here," "what am I going to do and will I be good at it," and "I hope they like me." I totally felt like a kid moving to a new school. Hoping to fit in and not make a complete fool out of myself. Heck, I don't even have my badge to get in yet. I was at the mercy of other people all day. In fact, when I first got there I ended up waiting and chatting with someone that was there to meet their probation officer. He was really nice though.

Well I have to say that I did like my first day at work. It is always hard to go into a place and really not know anyone or really have an idea as to what you will be doing. It was a typical Monday, meaning that it seemed like computers and other electronics did not want to work with or for me. But I was able to laugh it off. My co-workers were really nice. They gave me space and time to do things but at the same time I did not feel neglected. I met some very interesting people... though I cannot disclose anything. LOL.. it is fun to feel like you have a secret.

My day went rather quick. I felt like I had only been there for half a day when all the sudden it was time to go. I know that the days to come will not seem that way to me. I am super excited that I get to decorate my office. So any really good ideas for a long skinny office is open for discussion. Actually my boss put that in my schedule for next week... time for Lisa to rearrange her office. LOL. I think that is wonderful.

However, please know that I missed Dessa.... I wished she was there with me... so I was happy that we got to text back and forth for a few minutes.

I have to say that I think that my boss and my boss's boss will get along great with me. We seem to have the same sort of goals. I guess time will tell.

I wanna be just like Dessa...LOL

So I do kind of like this Blogging thing... even if no one other than Dessa reads it. I think I like to read myself talking...LOL.

But after messing around with my blog for a while I was frustrated and wanted more freedom.... So I decided to relocate my blog to this site instead of on the Sosblog.com. I think that I will get to play around with it some more. I figured it was better to move it right now when I had only written two things.

The only thing that stinks is that my comments from the lovely Dessa are going to be lost. But I know that Dessa will post here..... LOL.

I will be deleting my other blog later this week. Wow look at me I have two now... LOL.

It is my first day at work... new job. Wish me luck and pray I don't fall on my butt.

I Am Iron Man

Kids, kids, kids!!!I love kids... Honestly they give you a ton of headaches and can be very frustrating. But there is no other thing that can give you such smiles and laughs. My kids are fun. They have soooooo much personality. However, this time I am writing about my nephew.

His parents (my sister and brother-in-law) are both big music buffs. They listen to about everything. They are huge fans of older heavy metal...LOL. So even before the Iron Man movie came out my nephew knew the "I am Iron Man nanananan" or however it really goes. Anyway the release of the movie and the playing of that song on commercials made it more popular with him. He sings it all the time. When he is playing, walking, thinking, and it would not surprise me if he did it while using the restroom.

Anyway he is in first grade and my sister went to parent/teacher conferences to meet his teacher. The teacher told my sister that she loves that he sings that song all the time. I guess he sings it every time he has to walk up to the front of the class!!!! LOL. The funny thing is that he changes the words but keeps the tune to make it fit any situation. For example, "I love mom and dad, na na na nanana" "I am (insert words including his full name at times)." Truly it cracks me up. In fact, it has made such an impression that my husband and I sing it with my nephew's name whenever we hear the song (including when we watched the movie).

Today was a day that the first graders in his school were able to wear pjs and bring blankets/pillows to school to watch Polar Express. My sister had been looking everywhere for an Iron Man blanket/throw for him to take but could not find them anywhere. He has the Iron Man pjs (I know shocker). I happened upon an Iron Man throw yesterday when I was shopping.... it was in a strange place and in a store I would not have thought it to be. But I found it. I guess he was so excited about having it and being able to take it to school. My sister said that last night he laid the blanket out and practiced laying the way the pose on the blanket was. LOL.... This morning he came by to show me his pjs and blanket.

He was so cute about it that I keep smiling as I think about his face. I wish I had taken a picture. After all he is Iron Man.

This is for Dessa

This is for you Dessa!!!

Well, upon request and harrassment (just kidding) from Dessa I decided to open a blog. Who knows maybe it will help me to work through stuff and feel connected.

I currently left my job of a little over 2 years to become a Misdemeanor Probation Officer. I begin next monday, December 22nd. I am all kinds of nervous. But it is what I want to do. I want to help people make better lives and decisions. Now I am not blind and think that a majority are going to be thankful or even cooperative. I know most will not like me and hate every second they have to see me. But I just have to keep in mind that maybe some of them will learn and it could have a ripple affect on others in their life. My life in general seems to be changing so much.

My husband (who is the love of my life and best thing that could happen to me) is going back to school and working a totally different shift. My kids are growing up faster than I remembered possible. My friends have changed in the way that some old long-time friends are not people that I want to be around and then there are new people in my life that fill spots I didn't know I needed filled. It makes me think of the email that does go around about how some people are in your life for a reason, season, or forever. I think too that I tend to rotate some... not cause I don't love them all the time but that as life changes some make more sense to be around where as others are not on the same page.

My parents are very loving and wonderful people. I love them so much. However, they are very controlling and feel that they ALWAYS know better. They use the fact that I have kids as an excuse to tell me what I need to do because of the children's lives. LOL, you would think I am a real deadbeat parent the way they talk and act sometimes. However, I know I am a good mom and my kids love me. I also know that my parents are like that with anyone that will give them an inch. Currently I am taking back a bunch of inches that they have acquired over the years and this is very stressful. I do love my parents and am thankful for what they do. However, my family feels it when they try to take over. So as of this week I had it out with my Father and it went very poorly. My mother is not talking to me and making a point of letting others see her as a wounded person. So I have a feeling that I may be venting on this blog just to get it off my chest.

Well that is all I have to write about now. I hope I am interesting and not boring... if so blame Dessa.