Hmmmm... so many things rolling around in my head these days. I don't know where to start or how. I guess the theme I see lately that is going on in some of my friends and family's lives is that some people really don't appreciate what they have. They also don't seem to notice or care how much their actions, words, or lack of actions seem to affect the ones that love them the most.
One area this seems to be consistent in life is those who suddenly feel that the grass is greener in an other pasture. Marriage and relationship are tough. But you know what, they are worth the time and effort. Those who feel like the grass is greener being single often forget to look at the grass they are standing on. Looking outward instead of inward. It is often not until they have climbed the fence and ran in that field that they realize that the grass where they were before is cushier, greener, and more nurturing. Then there are those that are single that do the same thing and settle for someone just to be married. Again it is often too late before they see where they are and where they were. We all need to open our eyes to where we are, not where others are. Chances are that the other people are looking at your field and feeling they are missing out.
Then there are people who decide that what they want is what needs to happen without consideration for those that have to deal with the consequences. My grandfather deciding that the wants to go home and have no one else go with him except my grandma is insanity. He has his kids all upset. My grandma is not in any condition to take care of a man who just had heart surgery on top of a mountain where it takes a bit to get there from the hospital. My grandma already has her own health problems to deal with. But that is not considered. It seems like he feels life is not fair because he has health issues. Well life isn't fair for anyone, so I guess it irritates me that those type of people tend to make it even less fair for those that love them.
One thing about my job is I get to see people who have pushed their loved ones to the edge. I get to see how their choices have made them people they can't stand. Losing their spouse, children, jobs, and so forth. I had a guy in yesterday that was homeless for years and is now finally back with his parents. He now appreciates all he had. They have made choices in life with drugs, crimes, and so forth. But I guess I look at it as we choose to decide to take things in our life for granted. We all fall victim to feeling bad about ourselves. Hopefully we snap out of it before we cause others more unfairness in life.
One of my favorite quotes ever is "The grass may be greener on the other side but it's just as difficult to mow."
ReplyDeleteI find that at times I have pity parties until I realize how loved I am. I get angry at situations where in my mind I felt that someone should have been there for me when the most important ones have been beside me the whole time. I have no reason to be upset. But I should have felt loved to the entirety. Thank you for sharing that Lisa. Miss you!
"Friends are God's way of apologizing to us for our family." I don't know who said this, but I remember it because I read it right after a "sisterly" fight. It has now been 5 years since that sister has spoken to me and I'm okay with that.
ReplyDeleteAs we've discussed before, you have to be the best that you can be and try to treat people (even family members) like you want to be treated. But .... you can't control them and how they feel. Just have to learn to not take their feelings toward you personally and remember that it's how they choose to live their lives.
Mom